Paul Outlaw was born in New York City and raised on a Lower East Side housing project with his five siblings. His early passion for acting started at his local Boys’ Club of New York (BCNY), a youth development organization. A gifted child, he was awarded a scholarship to attend Manhattan’s Grace Church School, followed by distinguished New Hampshire uni prep school Phillips Exeter Academy. All throughout this time he was acting in three to four plays a year, and lived in complete denial of his sexuality. It was a difficult time for Paul, who had relationships with girls but received homophobic abuse on the street.
He then secured another scholarship – this time to Harvard University – to study Latin and Greek. By this time, Paul had accepted his sexuality but didn’t know how to explore it. Whilst at university, he first “officially came out” when he admitted love for his roommate during a hypnosis game. Paul hated Harvard and felt uncomfortable in the Massachusetts queer scene. With a growing desire to focus on acting, Paul left Harvard to study theater at NYU and moved back in with his parents. Around this time, he came out to his mother using a book based on the 1977 queer film Word Is Out.
Paul stayed in New York from 1976 to 1983, finding his sexual awakening in the city and enjoying the downtown bathhouse scene. In 1983, he moved to Berlin, Germany to start a theater company with a guy he was dating. On a trip to Cologne in 1984, he first met his future husband Ray Busmann, but six years would pass before they got together. Throughout the 1980s, Paul was a fixture of Berlin’s underground music and theater scenes, throwing himself into the new fields of singing, songwriting and keyboard programming.
After the Berlin Wall came down in 1989, Paul experienced a shift in mood in Berlin, including a rise in racism, homophobia and discrimination. When Paul left Berlin in 1993 after ten years, he’d been (among other things) an acting coach, a musician and a fashion model. One of his final gigs of that period was performing the title role in Pepe Danquart’s Schwarzfahrer, which won an Oscar for Best Live Action Short Film in 1994.
Paul and Ray have been a couple since a chance encounter on the street in Berlin in 1990. In 1997, wanting to cement their relationship, Paul and Ray held four commitment ceremonies in four different places across the world: San Diego (with Ray’s US community), Maui (just the two of them), New York (Paul’s hometown), and Cologne (Ray’s hometown). In 1998, they moved to Los Angeles together. In 2013, Paul and Ray officially got married. Currently, Paul splits his time between Los Angeles and Berlin.
Throughout the 2000s, Paul has continued to enjoy success as a multidisciplinary artist in theater and performance, creating award-winning works such as Berserker, What Did I Do to Be So Black and…, and The Late, Late Show, and collaborating with experimental artists including Rosanna Gamson WorldWide, Fabulous Monsters, Gawdafful National Theater and Critical Mass Performance Group. After several years of development, his latest solo work, BBC (Big Black Cockroach) is scheduled to premiere at REDCAT (Roy and Edna Disney CalArts Theater) in June 2024.